Prospecting (Cont.)
While you are prospecting, you should be looking for good meeting situations, such as: Two women are together and one gets asked to dance and moves on – does her partner look uncomfortable being alone, or does she have a longing to dance (swaying to the music). If the answer is yes, get in there. Look for situations where a woman is begin bothered by an unwelcome male – this could be a situation where you could be a Good Samaritan, and your request to dance would be met with open, gracious arms. Look for women who are alone for the evening (did not come with anyone) – often they are much more receptive since they are more motivated to meet someone. Be arwae of approaching groups of women – often they stick together and dot no separate.
In your prospecting efforts try not to fall for what may appear to be good choices but really may not be: sexpots, large breasts, skin-tight pants, lots of makeup, tons of perfume, sexy walks can throw you. Often times when you cut through the smoke screens on these women you don’t find much in the way of getting along. They often can be like candy, sweet but not good for you.
Look for women who look like they are from the same backgrounds as you. You will probably find them easier to get along with than the South American Indian girl who you have nothing in common with. This is not to say don’t be adventurous once in awhile, but your best bet is to stick with women in your socio-economic background.
Look for situations at the bar where you can position yourself to meet women easier. For example, do you notice an empty chair next to an appealing woman at the bar – go over and stand beside the empty chair or ask her if the seat is taken – see what her response is – if it is negative, back away, if positive, move in and get to know her. Another approach is to stand very close to the dance floor – look for women who look like they want to dance – they are good prospects as long as dancing is not all they want to do.
Look for women who look like they have downed a couple of drinks already and appear to be having or looking for a real good time. Stay away from the women who look miserable and appear to be not enjoying themselves – they can be nasty sometimes and can kill your outlook and confidence.
I hope you agree that prospecting is a worthwhile activity. It can save you wasted time and effort on women that are not interested in you. Find the women that want to meet you!
