Attitude
Your attitude about yourself in the process of meeting women is a very important ingredient for your chances of success. Upon embarking out on an evening of nightclubbing, your attitude should be very positive towards assuming you will have a good time, being spontaneous with women, and really going for it. With this attitude, you will have a far better chance of mingling and talking with women. If you go out with a negative attitude, with feelings like, “I am not attractive, or in the mood, or feeling confident,” then your chances of being successful are greatly diminished. The great golfers who win tournaments consistently always play with the attitude that they are going to win. This attitude hits the subconscious mind and draws out of them their best performances – it puts them in an automatic pilot approach towards their goals – relentlessly pursuing them. You should do the same at your club.
To consistently be successful in meeting women, you must become thick skinned. You must realize in the back of your head that you may not have a good time, and that you may not succeed in meeting a woman that night, or even over a series of nights. A good, positive outlook will take through the dry spells and through any bad times. Your good outlook will allow you to realize that even if you are not having a good time at the moment, in a matter of seconds it could change to having an excellent time – meeting a woman can happen that fast in a club. You must always remember that you will be successful, you will meet your goal – maybe not tonight, this week or this month, but you will succeed. You must learn, when you hear the word no or other negative feedback from women, to let it roll off you like water off a duck’s back – nothing can take you off your goal or shake you.
Did you know that even though Babe Ruth was the Home Run King, he also was the Strike Out King? This same idea is so very appropriate in meeting women. Unless you are a very special person, you are going to be turned down by some women in trying to meet them. Some nights you may not get turned down at all, other nights you may get turned down by all you try to meet – some percentage of the time you will run into this phenomenon. You have to learn to deal with this rejection, and you do it by bearing in mind the sweet fruits of success, be it making wild, passionate love to a sex starved woman, having a great conversation with a woman you really like, or dancing with a woman who has an incredible body. You do not want to be down on yourself no matter how bad things look. You may ask nine girls to dance, but the tenth one invites you back to her apartment for drinks or whatever. Always picture in mind the good that can happen – go out with the idea that you are going to hit a home run. Always bear in mind when things are bad, that quickly, instantly, hey can completely change – so always be willing to get up to bat or you can’t get the home run.
Positive thinking is extremely important in bars and with life in general. To be successful at any endeavor requires some degree of positive thinking and self-confidence. You have got to believe that you are a desirable person to be met, and that others will be attracted to you. Waves of positive thoughts should accompany you through the rejections you will receive form females. Never give up no matter how bad it seems or how late it is. It is like a guy in the desert, who in dire need of water, keeps on walking until he finds the oasis. If he did not believe the oasis existed, he probably would have never bothered to look for it and would die in the process.
Let’s say that you are taking up golf as your new hobby. The first few times you hit the ball, it certainly will not be doing the things you would like it to. But if you keep practicing, trying new approaches, studying techniques, and most importantly, believing that you will hit it better – then you will improve. If you didn’t have this attitude, your probably would become easily discouraged and give the game up. Nobody wants to give up and consider themselves a loser, and I am sure you don’t either. Get in the game, ask women to dance, talk to them – be very persistent and learn from your mistakes and I am sure you will find yourself doing what you want to.
Take action, believe in yourself, get off your ass, stop making excuses about yourself, and you will become a much happier and more successful individual. Every man wants to meet women, and you will be doing it – believe it!
