Knowledge of Self (Cont.)
Intelligence
This is another trait which has to gauged by the women with whom you are meeting. In bars (depending on the type), you can face wide ranges of intelligence levels. If you are intelligent, you would most likely want to meet a woman with a good mind, unless, of course, carnal pleasure is your ultimate goal for the evening and her body and aroma are more important to you. You can only find an intelligent woman by conversing with various women until you find the right one – it is hard to prejudge just based on her looks. If intelligence is not your strongest suit, there are plenty of women in bars who are not Phi-Beta Kapa’s. You should have no problem in meeting someone of average or lesser intelligence. If you are not the intellectual type yourself but want to meet someone who is, you may have a more difficult time unless your other attributes can cover your deficiencies there well. For example, you may have had a very interesting life which could keep the intellectual female stimulated for a long time. The secret again is capitalizing on your strengths and neutralizing your weaknesses.
Fun Loving
Not all of us are the real fun loving types – we may be a bit subdued about our pleasures in life. However, we can be beautiful, strong, happy and healthy. Maybe you consider yourself to be boring. The woman you are talking to may find you to be just the opposite despite what you think. However, you must have confidence enough to try to project yourself to be a person who is not boring. Nobody is really boring – it is just a matter of using your mind to uncover interesting things you have done or expressing funny things that happened to you. Maybe the fun loving girl you are talking to will invite you in to her fun loving life and it will rub off on you.
Talent
Very few of us are the very best at what we do. Most of us are just average performers putting in a day’s work. However, to be really good at something, really talented, it requires a lot of time and effort devoted to the particular endeavor. Women like to be paid attention to, and that means having available time to spend with them. Talented people who must work long hours to maintain their talents can be poor at developing relationships due to their exceptional abilities. There are many more important traits in a man that a woman would find more appealing. Many women would rather be with a man who is loving, fun, and normal.
Wealth
Very few of us can claim to be millionaires, or even close to it. Most of us are just making average livings, worrying about our next mortgage or car payment. We do not drive Ferraris or wear Brooks Brothers’ suits. There are a very limited number of wealthy men in the world, so the vast majority of women are going to be meeting men who are making average or less than average livings – pure statistics. So don’t worry about not being a high wage earner. Love is much more important than money – ask any woman. Money is not the key to happiness. Keep in mind the attention you can give to a woman, the fun you have together. Getting to know someone intimately is much more rewarding than counting your money. So if you do not have much money or do not earn much, do not let it be a deterrent to meeting women; emphasize your other qualities. Remember, who wants a woman to want you only for your money? Your future plans to be successful may sway her to buy in to your potential also – women always look at potential in a man.
Interests
Everybody is interesting in some way. There is no such thing as a boring person. It is just a matter of bringing the interesting or fun parts of you to the surface. If you feel that you are unexciting or boring to women, maybe you are talking to the wrong ones, or they just haven’t seen your good side. Learn how to recognize the interesting parts of your life and relate them to the women you are meeting. Do not sell yourself short; toot your own horn a little bit on exciting things you have done or interesting people you have met. A little exaggeration here and there will not hurt either. Also, your future plans, ideas, and challenges ahead can be appealing to women if presented in an exciting way.
Happiness
If you are not a happy person – do not despair – lots of other people are not either, although they may appear to be happy. Many women are not happy since they have not met the right man, maybe they have a lousy job, or are unhappy for a host of other reasons. You don’t have to be happy with yourself in life to meet women. Happiness is an elusive trait. If you are not happy, you are certainly not alone, but you may want to analyze the problem and try to do something about it – in the meantime pretend that you are happy – it is easier to meet women if you appear happy and full of life than depressed. Marketing and selling yourself to women is very appearance oriented – if you appear happy – you will have a much better chance of a connection. Besides, you will be very happy when she hands over her phone number.
I hope that I have convinced you that you can overcome any shortcomings you have by emphasizing other areas in your life – practice doing this with your friends and relatives – talk about your strengths not your weaknesses – think positive and good things will happen for you. Believe it!
