Types of Bars
As you know, there are many different types of bars and nightclubs. Let’s think about a few types; collegiate bars, piano bars, discotheques, hotel lounges, Irish bars, restaurant bars, sing-a-long bars, bars with live bands, New Wave, casual, formal, city, country western, small, large, oldies, dating bars, jock bars, professional bars, and the list goes on and on. You should try out the various types of bars in your city and/or surrounding area to find the ones you feel most comfortable in, the ones where you have had some success in. Those are the ones where you want to spend your time. Do not go to bars that you do not feel comfortable in, since the women you will be approaching may notice your discomfort and it may be disruptive to the conversation. If you feel uncomfortable in all bars, then you probably need to really analyze the causes and try to work on correcting them. Reading the following pages may help you decide what is causing the discomfort and what to do about it. It may be that you feel self-conscious about your looks or dress, or that the bar is new to you. Either way, I hope the ideas presented in this book will help you overcome these concerns.
So pick out the bars you feel comfortable in, where there are lots of women and where you can have some fun. If you live in a town where the bar scene is not so good, you may want to consider going out of town on weekends to desirable places that do have good bars. If you are new to an area, you may want to try every bar to get a first-hand analysis, or I find the best way is to ask women you run into where they go — that usually works.
My best advice on picking out bars to go is to find a place that works best for you. But don’t lock yourself into one or two if there are others around. Sometimes, especially in larger cities where there are lots of bars, the in-bars can change like the wind. One bar that is hot over the summer may not be the best place to go in the fall. Keep your eyes and ears open for the places to go — times change and you need to change with them. Talk to people in the bars and ask them where they go to — you may be missing out on a super place. There are advantages and disadvantages to being a “regular” customer to a certain bar. If you are a regular, you may find that this allows you to meet women who do not like to meet total strangers. This could be truer in smaller towns, where women like to have a least seen you around a couple of times before talking to you — it is reassuring to them. In other occasions, women who are regulars themselves want to meet new men and not the regulars they see every week. Again, you have to judge what is best for you based on trial and error in your situation. Talk to other men who are doing well with meeting women — check out their ideas on this subject.
